Tuesday, 29 July 2014

Why my Facebook profile pic will never be my child

I'm at a stage in my life when most of my friends have 'settled down', partnered up, and (some) have started having kids. I know because I hear about it on Facebook every day. Beside the cute pics, kid quotes, and hilarious recounting of mishaps I'll often notice the big wonder-filled eyes of a child.

Weird. I didn't know I was friends with any toddlers.

Many of my friends- at one point or another- have replaced their own profile image with an image of their baby/toddler/child.

I know my friends LOVE their children. I know that they're very, very proud to be parents. And I know that the pressure is on, now more than ever, to prove ourselves fit, loving parents.


Here's why my Facebook profile pic will never be an image of my child.

I love my children, but they are not me. I have my own identity. I don't draw that line strictly for my ego or even my sanity. I do it for them too. My role as a mother does not define all, or even most of who I am and it's important for my kids to learn that for the future them that they will be. I am, and they are valid individuals outside of their roles.

My children are not my world, and I don't want them to have the pressure of being my world either. I have my own life, and realize they probably will never know about most if it. And that's OK.

And it may sound ridiculous but I don't really want my friends and family to feel like they're talking to some weird me-child hybrid on Facebook. They can still talk to me. Even though I've had kids!

Do you think it's weird or totally cute to make children your facebook profile pic?

Friday, 9 May 2014

Kids DO say (and do) the darndest things. My mother has evidence.

Kids DO say the darndest things. And sometimes (usually when they're abnormally quiet for a suspiciously long time) they DO the darndest things too. Things like 'playing makeup', choosing the darkest possible form of makeup and plastering it all over their face. 

Mira's 'Coal Miner' look

(The tears came on being caught).

My mother kept lots of evidence that my brother and I said the darndest things. She was in the habit of writing down cute, or funny things that we said when we were younger in a sweet little cloth bound book that was a deep red with a pattern of tiny yellow flowers all over.

I would leaf through that little book every once in a while and almost be in tears over the things we said when were younger.

It's not a tradition I've carried on, but she's kept it alive with her grandchildren. A Facebook message from my mother after our 2 year old erased her outgoing voicemail message (again):

Eadie erased the message on my answering machine so I thought of recording a new one with her voice.
I practised her on saying 'please leave a message', but when we recorded it she said 'you don't have any kids living here'.
I dissolved into laughter and repractised her...
Again she said 'you don't have any kids living here' !!
I finally got her to say the message part but she whispered it in the same voice I was using to cue her
The next time she YELLED it.
At last, we got it, though it sounds like a rather severe command to leave a message and not a suggestion! 

xo (Mom)

This Mother's Day take time to celebrate all of the wonderful things that moms are and do (BIG and little) every day.

And from our family to yours Happy Mother's Day!

Tell me something about YOUR mom in the comments below!

Thursday, 10 April 2014

Saturday, 22 March 2014

What's Wrong With No Makeup Selfies?

No makeup selfies are EVERYWHERE. Pictures of women without makeup are plastered all over Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.

It’s to support Kim Novak.
It’s to raise money for cancer.
It’s just another marketing campaign for Dove.

Whoever started it, whatever the motivations involved, I can appreciate the idea that women should feel good about themselves the way they are, BUT there’s something about this no makeup selfie thing that's a little more insidious than that.

Makeup or no makeup this trend underscores that beautiful is something women are supposed to be, something we're supposed to care about, and something we're expected to put on show to give other people a way to value us.

The ‘no makeup selfie’ craze seems like narcissism masked as charity. Why not donate instead?
No-makeup selfies campaign generates £2m windfall for cancer research
Why I Won't Be Posting a Make-Up Free Selfie

Wednesday, 19 March 2014

How can you tell if someone's psychic?

True Story: Sometimes I think outrageously inappropriate things just to see if anyone around me is psychic.

Is it just me? How else can you tell if someone's psychic?